We Can Change How We Feel, Right?

Can our Words Change the Way We Feel? Is it Possible?

There is a tool I have been working with to help remind me of who I really am, while simultaneously breaking me out of a self defeating thought pattern. It is called an incantation. And, I have been using it to help get me back on track when I am feeling uncomfortable, worn out, or facing any emotional obstacle. I just posted it to my previous blog post, and I will re-enter the text, at the end of this post, as a Post Script (P.S.)

If I am experiencing any suffering whatsoever, the intention of an incantation (which I learned through listening to a Tony Robbins seminar), is an affirmation that there is a solution to whatever I am facing, but it is more than just affirming words. In high school basketball, we called it "getting hyped." And in H.S. baseball, we were required when we were on the bench during an at bat, to cheer and make as much noise as possible in order to keep the energy going throughout the game. This is the same type of thing. Involving our whole body to elevate our energy to the highest possible level, ignites experiences of joy, peace, and happiness. We also are benefitting from the release of chemicals in our body that naturally lift us up, and give us a boost.

Reminders Influence Our Experience of the World

An incantation reminds me to dig in, and do whatever I can to elevate my energy level, so that I can accomplish my dreams, and get through whatever I am facing. It reminds me to involve my whole being, (mind: ego, body: physiology, heart: emotions) rather than just trying to think my way through with my mind.

It also reminds me of the importance of having a balance when it comes to eliminating unnecessary suffering, because feeling our emotions involves welcoming and embracing them, even the most unfamiliar, and uncomfortable ones.

Sometimes we need to emotionally dump and name our suffering, but for me, I don't want to stay stuck in judgment of my feelings. For example, if I have an underlying belief that "I am uncomfortable," the thought itself is quite uncomfortable. Then, if I am living my life out of that concept, eventually it is influencing my decisions and dragging me down into
existing in a low energy.

Reframing Negativity With Empowering Thoughts

My solution is to reframe my thought "I am uncomfortable," and to train my ego with an empowering thought: "I am building up my overall energy through perseverance.". I want to remind myself that "I am building up my overall energy through perseverance," over and over, until I memorize the words and allow myself to feel it in my bones.

This is an empowering thought, because it reminds me that feeling tired and weak is a part of the process. I heard once that bodybuilders begin to really love the feeling of pushing themselves in a workout and even consider it one of the highest levels of pleasure. This is not some sick, masochistic thing. A person who reframes their unfamiliar discomfort as pleasure is a person who has successfully trained their ego to align with another frame of mind, a frame of mind that is resilient, patient, malleable, and adaptable to changing circumstances.

Further Study

If you are interested in testing this out further, I would highly recommend Byron Katie's method of self inquiry called The Work, which you can find at thework.com. I devoted ten years of my life to a daily practice of The Work, and am still benefitting from my realizations found through inquiry. I developed a foundation through a daily practice, and spent at least 15 minutes a day in silence and meditation. At times, I was so interested in the positive effects of questioning my thoughts that I could go up to 10 hours or more, and  on occasion, would have 3 day long personal retreats at my home, listening to audio recordings, reading books, and studying this wonderful practice. I was, and still am devoted to the end of suffering. 

Another recommended read when it comes to feeling our emotions is a book called the Presence Process by Michael Brown. I devoted another whole year of my life to the self facilitation process found in the book. This process allowed me to relearn how to feel, after many years of conditioning myself to ignore and repress my emotions.

Thank you for reading,

I hope you enjoy my incantation. It brings me joy!

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P.S.  

Incantation For Today: All Are Welcome In My Company [Originally Written on Thursday, Jun 20, 2019]

I am so grateful to be a partner in my own personal evolution.

I am the master of my fate.

I am the captain of my soul.

I am passionate about ending suffering in my own life.

I am passionate about helping other people eliminate suffering in their lives.

I am attracting wealth and prosperity into my life; the kind of wealth that goes way beyond financial gain, without excluding it; the kind of overflowing wealth, prosperity, and abundant energy that can set a prisoner free; the kind of freedom that can raise me up from the grave, and set me free from any cage!!!

Because I am strong, and my strength comes from within me.

And, I am accessing that strength every day by having the courage to feel my emotions, get vulnerable with myself, move my body to ignite my physiology, and by replacing my negative, self defeating judgments with empowering, energizing, and uplifting concepts and ideas.

My heart is overflowing with grace, compassion, and gratitude.

I am generous to myself, first, so that I can give without reservation.

I am doing my work, the emotional work that brings clarity, understanding, and wisdom for any and all circumstances. And, I am always open to finding out where else I can expand this beautiful heart, mind, and soul; to the far reaches of any galaxy!!!

...Because I am loved, and there is sea of angels surrounding me. Because I am first loved by the captain of my soul, my biggest cheerleader, and the champion of my heart: Matthew Hardy

I did not give birth to myself, physically, but I am creating and building a life that is my own. I can't ever claim to take credit away from any God, but I am doing my best to do my part: which is to create a life that is full of energy, vitality, generosity, and gratitude.

I am building a life that includes all people, and does not exclude anyone. I am starting with myself, and then to my peers, and then to everyone who crosses my path. All are welcome, here.

I am creating a life that listens, and learns, and grows, and challenges any concept that causes pain.

I am building a life that evolves and loves and moves with the tides. I am a surfer who can ride the emotional waves, and lend a hand to an exhausted swimmer.

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This is my incantation. This is my dream for me today. This is my dream for my community, and family. This is my dream for the world.